New All Time Low

[MJontheMend]

The trouble is, in his case, he might actually quit his job. If you start ignoring him, it that the next level of escalation?

I feel like what he wants from me is for me to give him "permission" to quit his job. This would be a thoroughly financially irresponsible thing for me to do and I do have our two children to consider. Also, the thing is that he is really the one who is stuck between a rock and a hard place because he cares more about comfort and our standard of living and keeping up with the Jones's than I do. So he isn't even receptive to any suggestions I make about how we could reduce our expenses and therefore give him more employment options because he wouldn't have to make as much money. (I should note that I make almost as much money as him and I do pretty much all the housework, so there isn't some sort of lack of equity issue here.)

The thought even crossed my mind that his "I am having suicidal ideation about my job" comments are just a very hard core way of saying "Not tonight. I have a headache.". Good thing I'm pretty differentiated these days, otherwise I'd be thinking "I am so unattractive that men will threaten suicide in order to avoid having sex with me.".

My husband has told me that the thing he hates most of all is being ignored. So, he won't let me ignore him. He will figure out some way to get my attention, almost certainly negative. That is why I want to bail.