BBD,
From my experience:
1) Dad, never returned - never grew up, is going to his grave a grumpy old man (I am the only one of his children who has contact with him).
2) ExW - still in la la land (from what the kids have said about her) - close to 11 years of depression, almost 6 years since MLC PA (we've both remarried - I have always had the kids - we live 2 hours apart) - possible complications of Manic-depression (family history).
3) W - depression start date is hard, MLC to recovery - about 1.5 years - our M and R is better now then before her MLC.

You are right - no one should say "when" they come home - but what I post on 4060 is "if" they come home. I know here that doesn't wash well with many and the PMA - but it is reality, many do not return.

But some do come home and it is hard to stay active on the boards once you are back living a full life again (so many who do reunite, just stop posting). One of my W's pre and during MLC complaints - "you spend too much time on the computer"

We are all entitled to our opinions - and I know mine are not the most popular here (probably why I stick to other boards more) - but no one should be bashed for an opinion (some do take disagreement to mean bashing, and some think that since they disagree they are allowed to bash).

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But why does he contact only me?


IMHO - to make sure you are still there. Test it - don't answer when he calls and see what his reaction is


This has been a turning point to a better M.
In 25 years will either of us will remember much about this time?
Because in 50 years neither of us will remember much of anything.