Well... as they say with DBing on the separation board... no relationship talk! Just change the subject when it comes up, ask non-relationship questions, and let him talk your ear off. Work on friendship. That's the first step (or should be) for any healthy relationship. Later, if things do get going you can do R talk. I think you need a good strong friendship, that's starting to border on relationship, in place first before you go to the whole affair thing.
BTW, before it became popular I copied "Goodbye My Lover" on a CD and put it in a card to my husband during the divorce. I think it's a great song... very sad (even though my daughter makes fun of JB saying his music is wretchedly commercial ).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
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