I'm glad to hear things are going smoothly. Perhaps you should try not to overanalize things and just work on enjoying the time spent with someone you have a connection to. So much easier said than done...
I would imagine when your husband married you he realized you were independent and career-oriented, and he still loved you and wanted you. I think the problem is not that you are not different, but that he got to a point where he thought he might be interested in different. It's the whole "grass is greener" on the other side thing. (i.e. if you were a housewife he would have wanted an independent business woman, if you were an artist he would have wanted a corporate executive, etc...)
Just be yourself... or maybe try some other "roles" for awhile (like when you're off a week or two from work try being a "housewife" for awile... Hey! where I live all the "housewives" look better than 90% of the population!!! We're the ones at the gym every day, have graduate degrees, get our nails done, botox, read books on existentialism and then go shopping! LOL!!!! )
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
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