Quote: He says that we operate quite differently with those we see as "owned" by ourselves such as spouses, children, employees etc. We expect those people will do what we want and are much less willing to allow them choice. He says we operate much differently with friends where we seem to recognize that we don't own them and therefore are much more tolerant with our demands and expectations. He says "We recognize that good friends are our most reliable source of long-term happiness. We seem to know we could lose them, and the happiness that goes with them, if we tried to force them to do what they don't want to do." yet, we have few qualms about trying to force our spouses to live up to what we think they should be.
WOW!! This is pretty revealing. Maybe b/c it sounds so true. I guess XW (and me) did treat each other in ways we wouldn't have put up w/ from other people.
This is pretty revealing. Maybe b/c it sounds so true. I guess XW (and me) did treat each other in ways we wouldn't have put up w/ from other people. 
