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but you can't take a free spirit, put a ring on its' finger, then say you are now my wife - meaning I'm
an a-sexual, house cleaning frump, with no brain, no thoughts that amount to anything, undesired object. The
image of a housewife, to me, is one that cuts her hair
short, gets fat, watches soap-operas and then, when her
husband comes home, discusses that the dishwasher may be
going on the fritz. I was a business woman, who cares what
she looks like, never got fat, trimmed my hair, but it is
still below my chest, one that could talk about current
events and be independent. Apparently, he thought that my
status was or should have been only wife. I was brought up
to be independent - that's why I went to college. I wanted
a partner, not a controller.




DAMN! Sounds like pretty good qualities to have in a wife to ME! Go to the library and get a book called BOUNDARIES IN MARRIAGE.... they speak about controlling spouses and setting boundaries w/ them. You might find this helpful.


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I just turned 45 on the tenth of this month...thus
1210...


I beat you by 5 months.... or maybe lost to you by five months! NAH... age never bothered me... And a lady friend has asked me how I've stayed so in shape. (6'/170ish)

Seriously... You should not apologize for being a separate independent being... That said can you honestly say that you were a completely committed PARTNER in the marriage?

I know at first XW and I felt that way... but w/in a few years seeing her not take an active role in things, letting me more or less "run things", pushing to have a child before we had agreed to start a family... all that felt like she was more interested in being MARRIED then in being my WIFE. PART of the reason I ended up having a brief A. Maybe 2 months start to finish, and more EA than PA...

Hope things work out... keep plugging away. I can tell you Div definitely SUCKS. Just got off the phone w/ school about my S12 and his grades/behavior. He who NEVER misbehaved. ARRGGGH

Hellbent...