Is My DBing (LRT) Working?

[I_Wanna_Make_It_Work]

Can I have 3 good days in a row??? Hmmm. Time is my friend.

RECAP -

Monday - She called and leaned on me (cried) when she felt her friends started questioning her reliability. Nice talk once the crying stopped.

Tuesday - She TM thanking me for support on Monday, noting "it was very unselfish given the circumstances". And a few other TM's back and forth.

Wednesday - She called at 12:30am this morning. Just wanted to talk. I missed the call - I was asleep by then. Didn't call her back. I TM her a quick congrats for getting A's in the 2 classes she took this semester - didn't mention her message. She TM me on her way to work (knowing I had a counseling session this morning) and told me to have a good session and "hope you weren't mad I tried to call you so late last night".

So the woman who went 5 days with no contact over Thanksgiving and 9 days the week after has now reached out 3 days in a row.... Alone time does help them, I believe that. I will "curb my enthusiasm", but finding these baby steps is exciting.

One of the more difficult parts of DBing right now is fighting the urge to keep her talking ... answering her questions with another question, so she'll keep communicating ... responding right away while she's in the mood to talk ... just keeping the convo going. It's a lot easier to keep talking then to be the first to end the convo. Especially when one is still unable to detach.