I think that you should get a divorce. Life is too short to suffer through a marriage that you do not want to be in. Yes, you did have an affair which is not right, however; going back to your H and pretending like the affair did not happen will not make it better. What is done is done. It does not sound to me like you are happy, you had already considered a relationship w/ one man and then ended up in a PA with this guy. I know that honoring your marriage vows and working to stay married to your H sounds like the textbook thing to do, but you are alot older, wiser and more mature than you where when you got married. I wonder - how long can you deny your feelings?? By feelings - I mean feelings about your husband, sexual feelings, feelings about OM etc... It is up to you - but I would get counseling before going through w/ divorce. This therapy could help you sort out your feelings and gain an unbiased perspective on the whole issue.
