I have always stood by the fact that ALL of us have contributed to the demise of our marriages. Hindsight is always 20/20. Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda..... None of it matters now. ALL that matters is making a wrong into a right. Taking our selfishness and learning how to love the spouse we made a commitment to . Learning HOW to love the man/woman we married. Having an affair and then justifying it repulses me. Most of the posters here are remorseful and are trying so hard to win back their spouses. You are just looking for ways to justify your behavior by continuing the affair. There is actually another website for "the other woman". Your lover has a wife. You are a married woman. Does that not bother you? I doubt very much that your lover will Divorce his wife to marry you. I have read the other website and the OW is fed so many lines that they believe. By the way, what kind of future do you plan on having with your lover? Both of you are liars and cheaters? How can you have a future together? How can you trust each other knowing what each of you is capable of doing?
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
