you can have whatever opinion, but how could you say that my story is not true? does it seem so far fetched? since you think that this story doesn't sound true, it just means that this is a sticky situation.
i started to post in this forum before i realised later that this place is more for the "victims". i admit i am the bad person here, maybe people in this forum could take a peep into what is going on in the mind of the person wanting to leave.
everyone's aim is to be happy. if your spouse is leaving, and you try all means to make him/her stay, you are being selfish too, you are also just trying to make yourself happy by not letting go.
also, i think each of us should also take a look at oneself. ( my post is not directed at anyone) ar you really not at fault if you spouse want to leave? for eg, did you let yourself go? did you grow fat? did you bother to makeup, dress up and look nice? did you take everything for granted? did you keep improving yourself and not to depend on anyone if one day your spouse were to leave you?
i think it is very important to learn to be self sufficient, and have a lot of self esteem. when a person is at this level, he will not be that devastated when the spouse wants to leave. the more you want to hold onto something, the more you will lose it. the more carefree and self confident you are, the more you will get. just my own thinking, no one needs to agree.
