Quote: i just thought of something i want to add. a parent's love for her/his kid will never die ( becasue there is no such thing as this kid is no "right".). if there is indeed such love on earth, why is it that our love for our spouse would die if the spouse is the right one? time should not be the factor to kill it.
honestly, i have an idol singer/actor that i like ( ok, i admit is just based on looks.). i have liked him for so many years, and my liking had never decreased a little. yes, i admit i don't know him in person, but the bottomline here is perception. i perceive him to be like that, and since he would always seem like "that" to me, i could love him forever.
ok, i know i am babbling, my point is, if there is this someone like that for me, my love for him, i am dead sure, would not die.
please don't be pissed at me, i am not trying to find an excuse for myself to D, i am just trying to figure out what love is to know what to do next. am i really chasing an illusion?
I'm not pissed - just trying to give you a reality check. To me, it sounds like you already KNOW what you want to do...... you're conflicted for what reason, I'm not sure since you say you never loved your H. And you really think he won't leave you for someone else?
What if you have some weird quirk he can't live with but his next OP doesn't. How can you be sure he won't do the same thing to you? You know about karma right? That whole what comes around, goes around?
I'm not trying to be mean - just trying to show you another side to your quandry.
And honestly, I don't think your example works too well for me. I've seen news stories of women who should NEVER have been allowed to pro-create....women who dumped their children in dumpsters, killed their innocent children......where was their love?
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
