should i stay or divorce?

[*KS*Chick*]

indeed, why did i marry to him? i could only say now that that was a huge mistake. just in case you miss this part, i only discovered that i felt nothing when i had sex with him for the first time during honeymoon, and that was also my first time. i was thinking if i had had sex with other men before marriage, i would be able to make a better choice. please note that i am not talking about techniques during sex, i am refering to the connections, feelings.

i think i liked my H during our courtship intensely, very intensely, perhaps it didn't reach the "love" level.

i do not agree that "the circumstances of your R w/ OM do NOT bode well for a LTR." everyone would assume that relationships from affairs would not work out. i just feel that all relationships need hardwork anyway, be it first love, current boyfriend/girlfriend, current spouse or lovers. real feelings and great LTR do not only limit to partners before marriage. i know i am being defensive, but if OM and me are really meant for each other, time will tell. i would not conclude that he is not a good choice if i D.

i would not deny that i am immature. i do not know what is maturity anymore. is sticking to someone just out of responsibility a show of maturity? sticking to a marriage for the sake of children? i guess being mature is to be responsible isn't it? i agree i guess. but i think i'll choose to follow my heart so that i won't regret when i am old. i want to grow old with a man i truely love. is this just a fantasy? will love die? i used to think that love dies anyway over time, but now i think that love will not die when you are with the right one. i don't know i am right or not, but i am willing to find out.

levels of maturity could also be measured in breaking up someone's marriage so you can be satisfied... probably not the most mature thing to do. And to expect him to not do to you what he's doing to his current wife - you've got blinders on my friend.