Quote: my own opinion is i don't think my relationship with OM is built on lies and deceit. i look upon it as i have found my true love.
If the situation was reversed and you found out your H had a honey on the side.... Would you still feel the same way? Cuz it IS built on lies/deceit.
Quote: do you really think professional help will help? IMO, i feel that my problem is i don't love my husband, i have feelings of course, but not real love. you can't force love right? so i don't think counselling would help.
Well, if you feel this way why are you here asking our opinion?
I don't mean to come across as judgemental or harsh... but you are clearly looking at things through the rose colored glasses of infatuation... Now maybe your OM really IS all that and a cherry on top... But you made a committment to your H... And what about a few years down the line when you realize OM isn't quite so perfect, or worse, HE realizes YOU aren't so wonderful. Are you going to feel the same way if OM walks out on you? Does your H know any of what you're feeling? B/c my XW kept a WHOLE lot of stuff deep inside her until it blew up and she took off w/ no looking back. Would have been nice to have had the opportunity to really work on our stuff together. I'm betting your H would like that opportunity also.
And even in the worst of times when I myself questioned my M.... I always looked forward to getting home and having W there. She definitely grounded me
Do a search on CRAZEDMOM and read her threads... Don't run off on us either!
