should i stay or divorce?

[toughlover]

How much older is he than you?

i do not agree that hollywood movies screw up the concept of love that badly. when i read romance novels, i thought those all are myths, all frictional, i thought sex is just sex, is not possible to reach that kind of passion s described because personally i did not feel that kind of passion before during lovemaking. now, i beg to differ. i finally experienced it, it is exactly as in the novels. i am so touched, i am so glad i could taste love before i die.

Nobody ever said those feelings weren't possible. I've experienced them and, really, more intensely with a girl or two I dated when I was younger than I've ever really had with my W. Some people crank our tractors more than others. But I also recognize that those feelings aren't magic, or mystical. They're the result of various combinations of adrenaline and endorphins my organs release into my bloodstream as a result of brain stimulation. Kinda fun, certainly more interesting than folding laundry or having to deal with the same person day in and day out.

and i reached this heavenly feeling, not orgasm i am refering to, but the connection of the souls

Well that's interesting because now you're using poetic and symbolic language to describe something that can't be described any other way. I mean, you can't reach in behind my spleen and pull out my soul and show it to me, so we're kind of going off the page here a bit.

And I'm not saying we don't have souls or that your souls aren't commingling, not at all.

But what if this guy is just really good at pushing your buttons and your years of frustration with your H have caused you to conjure up a bunch of nifty romantic ideas that this guy just happens (intentionally or not) be good at tapping into?

when a man is willing to marry you, to give up what he has to give up to do that, i do not doubt his love any more.

Well, I don't doubt he digs you, but what about the fact that he has a commitment to someone else? Do you really want to participate in the breakup of a family? Pardon me but if that's your idea of what real love is then I'd suggest you just do a little more thinking before you go through with this because there may be more to this than you realize and you, and a whole lot of other people, will be suffering the consequences for a long time.

And if you really love him, don't you want him to do what's right, what's honorable, and what will help build his character and make him a better person?

Or is love just pure selfishness?

he is definitely not after sex, he loves me so much, just like my H. the difference is, i love this man. i feel that i would give up the whole world of other men for this one. i am an attractive woman, i could have a beautiful boy just for sex if i want to, but i never never do that. i am after love.

Well we all have some good qualities, some bad.