Kind of interesting. I have a friend going through something similar. She has been married for over 17 years (3 kids) and says the same thing about her husband regarding sex and attraction. She fell in love with a married man at work and they had an affair for two years. They were both planning to leave the spouses but she ended up doing it and he ended up staying with his. Since then she just started on antideppressants and seems to be on a crazed search for Mr. Right (i.e. "right" in the sack). The most interesting comment she made one evening lately was that she thought once she got out of her marriage she'd be happier.
Oh well....
I can't say your sitch is like my friend's. Maybe you really would both get divorced, marry each other and live happily ever after.
Although if either of you have kids I wouldn't do that. If it's true love wait until they are grown and out of the house and then go do whatever you want. That's my two cents...
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