my own opinion is i don't think my relationship with OM is built on lies and deceit. i look upon it as i have found my true love.
i know i am not after sex, as in sex with someone new. at first i thought i was. you see, i have another suitor who is very handsome, better looking than my OM, he is also in love with me. at first i had some feelings for him too, and even consider having sex with him. but after i discover i truely love my OM, i rejected this other suitor.
i am scared myself when i discover how deeply i have fallen for my OM, but also happy too.
do you really think professional help will help? IMO, i feel that my problem is i don't love my husband, i have feelings of course, but not real love. you can't force love right? so i don't think counselling would help.
i suppose i will keep my vows and stick to my marriage i think. it hurts me very much just to think of my H coming home without me. i do care very much for my H.