i married my H 8 years ago, i was a virgin. i thought i love him, but i never enjoy having sex with him. i thought i don't like sex, he thinks so too.
for 8 years i gave him sex as wifely duty. he did everything correct, he loves me very much, but i have no urge to want him to touch me, in fact, i hate it. the weired thing is, emotionally, i like him as a person, even love him as someone close. come to sex, i had never had passionate love making. the problem is with me, not him.
we tried ways to arouse me, but none works. my body is dead to him. i didn't understand, we just conclude i am a person who dislike sex.
finally, i have an affair. my lover and me fall in love hopelessly. i finally know what is love making. i have never felt so connected before, and the strong loving feeling, i have finally tasted love. sadly, i finally know what i felt for my husband 8 years ago was not true love. when you meet the correct person, you don't need vibrator, erotic films etc to feel aroused. you feel aroused even without seeing him.
my lover has fallen for me to the extent that he wants to divorce his wife to marry me. we are mature adults, late thirties, we think we know what we are feeling for each other.
is it really true i don't love my husband? could anyone who's been there done that tell me what is going on? is it better that i divorce?
