One thing I do know about MLC is that the "M" part is a misnomer. Michele said it somewhere (don't remember where), but in today's stressfull fast paced world, it can strike at pretty much any age.
W has told me on occasion that she simply wanted to live a parallel life with me, and that she didn't want to even think about OR. Since that time, she's said that she's willing to work on it. She has. Off and on.
Seems to me like we're back to parallel living.
So I think you're right about MF being a friend with no emotional attachments. I've put a lot of effort into being a non-judgmental friend, and as rayanne said before, I've worked hard at not being an emotional burden to her.
But I'm her H. I can't avoid that.
We're friends. No doubt in my mind about that. But I want the intimacy we once had. Can't push it on her, but I can't not want it either.
I don't know how lonely she is. She has a lot of interaction with our kids, especially our daughters who are blossoming into young women. She also has regular contact with her brother and mother.
She's shut herself off from me, but not her family.
As to why she's shutting herself off from me...
I've said and done things that were interpreted (misinterpreted) by her as shutting her off. I've addressed some of them with her, and she's been a little more open, but I don't know how open.
I do know that she isn't sleeping well. She chalks it oup to peri-menopause - a subject which she gives me glimpses of, but not something she will discuss openly with me.
