My luck is going to change.

[BeingMe]

I did read the book, and found it quite interesting. However, there some things in there that I used to do (and some I still do), and my H didn't even notice. Such as making sure dinner was ready when he came home (when I wasn't working), and trying to always be showered, dressed, and cheerful. Then we had twins! Ah well!

Some things are just not realistic, but we can work on it. I would, for instance, be nice if we all could have jobs where we can be home at certain times, etc. Where I come from (economy was down the tube, and lots of political upheaval), I had no choice but go to work. We needed the money, despite my H having a good job.

Those are the only parts I can remember, and some stuff she mentioned in her interview with Larry King.

I think the only mistake you made was to allow your H be the sole controller of how you conduct your emotional and romantic life. He starts off not wanting to be affectionate, then tells you he wants it, but you don't respond soon enough for his liking. Seems to me, you allowed your H way too much control. He comes across as rather selfish, not considering how you may feel about public displays of affection! But, then, my H did the same thing, in some ways. We just want to please them, and end up denying our own needs. That's just not right!!! They impose their needs and wants on us, then if we can't deliver when and how they like it, then somehow it's our fault. What about our needs and wants! Somehow, that gets forgotten. It's a two-way street.

I think it's always good to consult a C, when you have questions about your life. Whether it's Dr. Laura, or a DB coach, or someone in your community, it does help to bounce ideas around, and get an objective opinion.

Take care.