My luck is going to change.

[OnHoldAZ]

Not sure what to make of the gifts either. My W went into the thick of the fog in Aug ‘05. Christmas - she opened the gifts, but many just got moved upstairs b/4 Christmas this year. One gift was a personalized Poem under glass - it's still in the box. My W came out of the fog in Sept. ‘06

Our Anniversary is 1 Jan (it was good this year) -- last year I had a painting made out of our wedding photo - W looked at it and said "that would have been nice 2 years ago" and put the paper back on it. It's still sitting on the floor - not hung.

I think guilt gets them – here they are being sh$#s to us and we get them gifts. Kind of takes some of the wind out of their anger sails – because we show them that we are not what they have painted us to be.

I have brought up the painting – I get “I’ll get to it” But I wonder if the pain of guilt from her actions last year will be in her mind every time she looks at the picture.

Don’t give it too much head space – he would probably just feels guilt if he accepts it, so H acts like a teenager “ignore it, it’ll go away”