Just found something interesting. The day we left to go to my parents for Xmas, I had left a gift for H with some butter tarts out in his shop. I didn't expect to see him before we left so thought it was safe to do so. Anyway, he did go in his shop before we left and then stopped in the house to see if we were still going. I said we were, I was just trying to get the kids in the car to go as I was worried a bit about the roads. I asked if he was taking the dogs right then and he said no he had work to do and would get them later. No mention of the gift. Perfect. I didn't expect anything in return. I did sign it love me.
I realized today that while we were gone, he had come in and taken his mail which means he was in my office. Thankfully I had taken all my S papers with me in case he did some snooping. I didn't think he would, but maybe he did because I can't figure out why he would have been in my office. Anyway, I thought I would go out to the shop today and see if the gift is still out there. H is at work today. The gift is still out there. He started to open it and then didn't. It was a book I had picked up in the Grand Canyon on all their trails. He didn't open it enough to see what it was about. Not sure what to make of that.
When H and I hooked up, he was going out with someone else at the time and I didn't know it. He said that he knew if we hooked up it wouldn't be a one night stand sort of thing. Anyway, he broke up with her and remained friends with her. She never wanted to meet me so they would visit when ever she came to town with out me. I didn't like it but I went along with it. The other day I found a box with some letters and cards that she had written to him while we were together, very suggestive, asking to go to Mexico with her, etc. So that kind of stuff didn't work for her, but he was 23 at the time and not in MLC. H was looking for a box the other day, pulled that one out and put it back.
The other thing I realized today was that one of the worst things anyone could do to my H is lie. Never lie to him. I realized that he started to lie to me when his friendship with the OW was becoming a problem. Over the past two years that he has associated with her he has taken on so many traits of hers that are just not the kind, loving person that he was. So sad.
I will be curious about the gift thing.
Love and hugs for all Here is hoping that 2007 will be a much better year for all of us. Cynthia
