You are right that I am not supposed to change my independence for him. We have been so independent of each other for so long. I do want his help with the house so I think I will tell him so, but that I am not willing to wait for him to have the time as there is a lot of work to do. If he is willing then great, if not, oh well.
I was just talking to a friend whose x-son in law is a friend of H and spent a weekend together in the summer at a bike race. H took the skank with him. The one comment that this guy said to my friend was that when H and I were together, we didn't show a lot of physical attention to each other. H said when we first were together that he didn't like someone hanging off of him all the time. Well the skank and H spent a lot of time touching and kissing each other. Our friend wasn't sure that it was my H that was there!
Anyway, not sure how I am reacting to this information. Part of me is sad and wishing it was me that he was doing this with. Part of me thinks that this proves that he is in MLC. If and when he comes out of this, I don't want him to revert back to our old ways. I have waited for so long for this kind of treatment from him. For the most part, I am sad and very jealous.
