Here is an example of how backwards people in MLC behave. My D who is 15 now has been dancing since she was 3 (she took last year off b/c Dad promised her horse back riding lessons that never appeared). Every year they do a recital. Every year I would have to force H to go. He would whine about it, but would go. He then would fall asleep during the recital and I would have to wake him up when she came on.
Well OW's D is in a play at the school which I have already taken D to as the two D's are friends. Last night D told me that H is taken her to the see the play. I was so hurt that he would willing go to the OW's D play. If only D knew this about her father (don't worry, I would never tell her). Then on Sunday he has asked her to come to their house to help decorate the tree. In our house H has always gone to get the tree with the kids, put it up and when they were little he would put the lights on and that was his whole contribution. He usually wasn't around for the decorating. Xmas was not a big deal in our house per say. The Xmas dinner was always at our house. His brother always came home for Xmas to our house.
Other people on the boards talk about their H helping with Xmas shopping and lots of my friends H's help too. My H has never ever helped with any form of shopping because he hates it. I would have loved to have him help because it would have been nice to get some ideas from him. I couldn't even get that. Oh, he would shop for my Xmas gift and take the kids out to get me something. Other people tell me that some else does their stocking. I have always done my own. How sad is that. Now H is a shop-a-holic.
They really do things the exact opposite of what they used to do.
I am so jealous of what he is doing. If I had half of the time he is giving her I would have been on cloud nine. He is doing everything with her that I have waited 18 years for (except all the shopping as I don't like to do a lot of shopping). I am so hurt.
