mlc or infidelity? how can you tell the difference

[cat03]

ah!!! do you see the difference here? your 180 is keeping your dd in her bed, and it is working, that's why he kept opening your door. As you can plainly see he is trying SO hard to push your buttons ("church boyfriend" loud music, etc)
You are doing good, keep your cool like youve been doing, don't let him drag you w/his bad attitude

And it's also nice that you still have dinner ready for him, do inform him that it is ready, (just dropped the 'if he cared' part, let him be the jerk,) you keep being nice, and I promise you, all the good changes you make will benefit YOU first, he'll also see that you aren't the vindictive witch he's trying to make out of you, keep giving out kindness.

At some point (after my H came back) I was feeling drained that I kept giving affection and everything else I could to my H and he was still not giving me any affirmation nor attention. I told my C that I felt drained, and he asked me "are you giving out of your soul or are you giving what you receive from God?"

When God is our source of energy, kindness and love, we give what He gives us without expecting much in return from others. It is hard not to see inmediate fruits to our work, but our acts plant seeds, tiny seeds that in time will flourish.

Hang in there gal.