Thank you sooo much. You are so insightful and obviuosly God has given you plenty of wisdom. I tried going to one of my pastors, but he doesn't beleive in giving only one half of the party counseling. I really do need it. That book who is the author? I just ordered two- "not just freinds by Glass & Boundaries in marrige by Townsend. Today my H and I were emailing back and forth cuz I told him even if he goes down south to his cousins for new years I want to spend it w/ my dd's too & replied for me to drive seperately in my own car, I said sure! When I mentioned about his silky undies that in all our years 2gether he has never bought any he said I would need more than religion to save me that I needed drugs. I said it's not religion that saves it's your relationship with HIM. H said he didn't want to be mean to me anymore, but that if I didn't stop the stupid emails he would really star hating me. I said he can be mean & come & go as he wants and I would still have the peace of the Lord, but to stop taking our dd's around her! H said he will do as he wants as long they are willing to go. I wonder if it will be easier if H was living out of the home? I will go back to my 180's. I just have to remember it is not him, it is the demons in him that make him be mean.
