hmmm, I'm still wondering what good would that do, other than enraging your H by mixing his work and home issues, anyways, what's done is done.
You should go to C alone then, you need someone to talk to. As well as I coped (after the first horrific 2mths) I slowly was becoming unglued. You need an outlet, and as well meaning as your mom might be you need a professional to guide you for a while.
My H also had separation papers ready and show them to me, nothing came out of them because 1) I stalled 2) I told him I was in no way ready to deal w/him leaving and a legal separation. So the fact that he has those papers doesn't mean it is the end, don't loose hope.
How were things before all these things happened? it is sometimes helpful to look back and see where things went wrong, it takes two to tangle, but if anything else, this terrible trials teach us something about ourselves.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
