mlc or infidelity? how can you tell the difference

[cat03]

Both, MLC first and then the infidelity being brought upon the problems you both had. You said that for a while you guys didn't talk for a month, that is just not right. First of all I was in your shoes a while ago. It came out of left field even though now that I look back I was a huge reason why we distanced each other, working and being a mom I was too busy for my H.

Your H is trying to escape reality and responsibity (MLC) and trying to live live (staying out all night) Kicking him to the other and not speaking is just putting the final bricks on the tombstone of your M, stop now, take your dd back to her room.

You guys have had major issues and he is (in an awful awful way) trying to find solace elsewhere. Go to counceling, either alone if he doens't want to come.

It isn't too late yet, and even if he comes up w/D papers, it isnt' over, my H had a lawyer for a few months after he left my kids and I, eventually he dropped him. This situation will last for a few months sadly, your H needs to process his anger, and eventually he'll also see not all the blame should fall on your shoulders, but again, that takes time too.

I want you right not the read 'the proper care and feeding of husbands' which will open your eyes.

I also found God again after putting him in the second burner forever, and he gave me the strenth go to go and be strong when all seemed hopeless, you are in the right track there.

No more silent treatments. DB your butt off, hang in there.