my H has wanted a D for the past year and suspect it has a lot to do w/ him having a "friend" She is an ex-coworker that I had always beeb suspicious of especiall after one of my daugh accidentally told me they all went to the park wi th her and her daugh ( H told her not to say anything to me) Afew months ago I started snooping & discovered his cell phone password online. This is when I new for sure it was m,ore than "freinds". He was callling her everyday before and on his way home from work. As soon as he would leave for lunch ( to have lunch with her). She went to work only fifteen minutes away from his work). Three months ago called what I suspected her work number just before she got off work and ofcourse she denied seeing him romantically, but that he was a really good freind and was not going to stop the freindship.
He still denies to this day of anything physical. He caught on and changed his password & now I can not figure it out. Says he is tired of everything and evryone including the kids & the mortgage. Months before this I was suspecting and took advantage of his mom visiting for the summer and started "date" night. I told him that i have been trying and says it is too late. He was tired of the everyday arguing.
Well, since then I have been ding a lot of praying and asking God to make changes in me that H will notice & God really is making me a more patient & gentler wife. I snooped last night & found a NEW set of D papers with some prices and an appointment time with no date. God! Give me strength!! I think he is thinking he will have the money to go thru w/ his end of the year bonus. My mom tells me to stop torturing myself w/ the snooping and let God handle it & do not interfere! Please advise me. We r back to not sleeping in the same room the last time this happened it lasted for a month. This time it wsa my choice by putting one of our daugh to bed with me. I was angry that he stayed out all nite last weekend. I am being the wife that I was not before by keeping my mouth shut even when he is beign really mean. It has it's good effects cuz we do not argue like before, but now we aren't even speaking. We have three girls and don't understand why daddy can be with us on family events. God is really easing my pain as time goes by though.