Thanks guys,
I cannot recommend Emerg on a New Years Day! 10 hour wait to see a doctor. Dad's still there, being cared for and I'll be checking in with him later today. I'll try and catch a few more winks this aft. He's been having horrible flu symptoms since just before Xmas but they don't believe it's flu anymore cuz it's not getting better.
I appreciate your prayers OSU, and kind wishes CM. thanks.
GOOD NEWS! My Dad has been discharged from the hospital. All tests seemed to be A-OK. They believe he was just so dehydrated from the flu that he couldn't bounce back. Stomach specialist found nothing. He's been on intervenous to rehydrate him and a few other little goodies they tossed in. He kept down breakfast and lunch. YAHOO!!!! I must admit I was pretty scared here, he seemed so sick since Xmas. Now, back to the other Hell During my afternoon here I took out my collection of positive and uplifting quotes, I felt a little PMA boost was needed. I thought I'd like to share this one with you:
"For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin...But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life." Alfred Souza
I guess the challenges we face in our M's are all part and parcel of that life. We must live it as though each day is precious (and it is) despite the pain and what often feels to be inescapable despair. The in box will never be empty, so we can't wait for joy to somehow find us, we must find joy. Later DBers!
Yes, great relief, OSU. The next few days will be the real test of his comeback. I'm hopeful. You know, my Mom and Dad have always been the greatest since all this sh!t with W began. They continue to treat her with all the love and respect they did before they knew of her antics. She is family, no matter what. They've always been there for me, despite my sister's M falling apart and they having to be there for her too (her H was a dopehead, drunk and a few other unmentionables). Mom and Dad are both in their mid 70's and two amazing people.
Well, W came home tonight and did NOT mention anything to do with the last 24 hours dealing with my Dad's illness. No questions like "How's Dad" or "you must be tired", NOTHING! I had called her late afternoon to let her know the developments and she thanked me for calling but that's it. How bizarre. Would it not seem appropriate to even make slight small talk about what happened even for a minute or two? It's like she wants to make sure that I realize how insignificant my life is in her eyes. In the past few years I would bring up an event to share with her and her response would be to brush it off with some disinterested comment. I know she also has issues around times when she is "expected" to show caring or support. Put that together with whatever her personal work obsession is for the day and you have the makings of another evening of distance. Well, fine with me. Next D12 came and asked if she could go with girlfriends to the park tomorrow, this is a first time request. I stupidly said "I don't have a big problem with it unless your mother does" (Next time I say "your mother and I will discuss it and let you know") Of course W says "If your father has no problem with it then I guess it's OK otherwise I will be the bad guy and you hate me enough as it is" (Yes, another totally inappropriate comment from the W!) I said "if you are not comfortable with it then neither am I" and D said "Oh, so I guess that means NO". I replied "I think it would be wise on your part to ask your mom what her concerns are and then discuss what you can do to reassure her" (again, I should have said "us") That at least seemed to calm things allowing for the semblence of a discussion to take place. I informed D that a trip to the park should not be construed as permission to hang out in the park on a regular basis. Now, W just loves to provoke me with these snarky remarks like "I guess I'll be the bad guy" when I'm tired and after 2 hours sleep in 34 hours, I was tired. I chose not to respond, she can take it for what she wants. What is the problem with saying something polite like "Whatis I would prefer in future that we discuss D's requests together before giving an answer?" I would say "you are absolutely right!" but instead she has to act like the poor mistreated W and mother. I guess it fits with her world view. Oh, woe is her!!! I've noticed this before that when I've had a traumatic event e.g. when I was diagnosed with Diabetes (which I beat, btw) she becomes angry and snarky with me at a time when some support and caring would be appropriate. She resents me having basic human needs. So basically all is normal at the Whatis residence
Glad to hear your Dad is doing okay - you must be exhausted
Sorry to hear your W was so insensitive and cruel at a time when you need just a little compassion. They can be so thoughtless at times can't they?
Hang in there - things could be worse (or could they? )
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Thanks Heywire, My last post was a little limited in scope. I must say that today she did call twice to find out how Dad was and told me this morning not to rush home (despite her needing to go to work). So during the crisis she was supportive but this evening she's back to her normal self. Sorry, if I sounded like I was crying in my beer. I'm just tired. Thanks again.
Take it easy and don't stress out too much (ya right eh?)
Take care
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
During my afternoon here I took out my collection of positive and uplifting quotes, I felt a little PMA boost was needed. I thought I'd like to share this one with you: