it's interesting that so many people can read the same things and get different senses of it. i never felt from reading andy's thread that he was resentful towards his wife. i get the sense that you (andy) love your wife with all your heart, do everything you can think of and are capable of to do your share and want the fun and intimacy back in your relationship. i get the feeling you are frustrated with your w's lack of enthusiasm and affection. you both have such full plates. you are trying to make the marriage a priority, your w just can't right now. i hope you are having a peaceful evening. lisa
