Tom,
Quote: "...think for and about YOU !"
Are you saying it's all about ME cuz I thought it was all about YOU? Now, I'm really confused OK, I'll go to bed now. Just couldn't let that one get by me! Wife what Wife?
Hey there...no, my belief is to always go with your gut. You felt uncomfortable in not talking to your W, you then, realized it was wrong (your gut feeling), then corrected it by calling back...that was excellent perception on your part...well done...
Your gut told you to call her and what you did by not talking to her was wrong so you still corrected it. Even though she is doing what she is doing right now you still love her so you needed to make sure that everything was going alright.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
I thought I'd share a nice experience that happened to me today. It often amazes me how these things somehow happen at times you need them the most (or maybe that's just when you notice them most). Today I stopped at our local Chinese supermarket to get items for the meal tonight. I got in line at the cash and when my turn arrived the young cashier looked at me and her face lit up, she gave me the most incredible smile and in English said "Happy New Year", she finished bagging and my bill came up, she took it in both hands, bowed slightly and offered it to me, I thanked her and she straightened up, looked me in the eyes and beamed at me once more. Trust me, this is not the usual treatment. She was treating other customers in the usual way. Why today? Who knows but she obviously was showing she recognized me (how many white guys are frequent shoppers at the Chinese supermarket!) and wanted to treat me in a special way today. Funny, on the day I really needed someone to say "you're special" this woman did! It's amazing how often this probably happens in life. We do it for others and they do it for us and none of us know what it meant to the other. Next time, I'll use my Chinese on her, it usually makes Chinese people laugh They always feel honoured when you make the attempt, at least. So, I just thought I'd share something nice for a change of pace!
It's interesting because the bowing would be considered very respectful but looking me directly in the eyes would be considered very forward! She probably knows that whites look each other in the eye when we talk, Chinese tend to look away or at least avoid direct eye contact. Well, off to start my cooking, I haven't seen my friend for a few months so it will be fun!
Well, my friend and her girls have left. It was a very nice visit and I was busy shopping and cooking most of the day. My friend still thinks I'm a little crazy for sticking this out, but hey, what else is new! Actually she also told me that divorce was the most traumatizing event in her life and she did understand why I wanted to stay till the last possible moment. She, and most of my friends, feel I'm beating a dead horse though. They could be right. W called later in the evening and asked D9 whether dad would like to speak with her (she'll never say she'd like to speak with me!). Tonight I said yes. She just said she was phoning to say goodnight and wondered how I was doing (pretty damn good until you called ) I said I was fine and asked when she would be home tomorrow. We said goodnight and hung up. Playing H and W right to the end. It's funny because I know she's still wearing her wedding ring, she never takes it off. On a weekend with OP and wearing your wedding ring, how bizarre is that. So now it's back to my book (I did start it last night) and I will say goodnight to you all.
W has returned home for about an hour now. I have spoken about two words to her, "Hi" and "No thanks" when she asked if I needed help in the kitchen. (I know, that's threee words.) What am I supposed to say? "Did you have a good time"? Who cares! "Was she good in bed?" oops, don't go there, I know (and I won't). I think the smartest thing for me to do tonight is to stay clear of her, be pleasant and don't start anything!!! Let her have time with the kids and go watch football or read. This is just a feeling and it too shall pass, maybe I'll go for a run a little later. Back to the kitchen now.
OK, just one last rant, HOW CAN SHE POSSIBLY THINK THIS ISN'T TEARING MY HEART OUT ! Ok, rant finished, short but sweet. Later, guys.
So the elephant is back in the room again ?! This is just me.. but I think I would atleast address the weekend sitch in a non confrontational way somehow.. otherwise.. the anger/resentment issues sort of grow.
I dont recall the last real convo you had with her about her friend.. .hmm.. just thinking out loud...
This is just me.. but I think I would atleast address the weekend sitch in a non confrontational way somehow.. otherwise.. the anger/resentment issues sort of grow.