Im sure that your wife does feel the resentment you hold over the way that things are now. I know that you keep saying that you are "accepting" the situation at hand, I'm not convinced that you truly have.
"You need to find some OTHER way of replenishing your spirit"
I thought this pretty much hit the nail on the head.
"Instead of focusing on how much she's not appreciating you, you need to MODEL the appreciation you crave."
Leading by example. Usually the best way to get people to follow you where you want to go.
JJ
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