Thanks OSU. Yes, feelings come and go but the problem becomes when we act on them to the exclusion of reason. When we put the two together we get well thought out actions, otherwise we get more grief to deal with. I've been able to survive in this mess for the past few years because I've tried to stay in control of my actions as much as possible. Tonight is no different. My W will do what she will and live with her choices, just as I will have to do. I think we know whose going to come out on top here, don't we! I will continue to conduct myself in the ways that will leave my self respect intact. That will always be the best choice for myself, my M and my family. So, don't worry about me OSU, my cheese is still firmly planted on my cracker! Thanks for the words (and the mini-2 x 4), I do appreciate it.
Now, now - don't assume...maybe, the two of them together will be toxic...familiarity breeds contempt...you never, know - it may not be such a wonderful couple of days with each other...have fun yourself.
1210, you are so right. Look at all the contempt familiarity has bred within her towards me. All is not lost AT should I bring anything to CM's? Maybe just the usual 2 X 4? Should we go from softwood to hardwood? I'm on a kid break right now, I'll try and pop over later. He's not wearing his thong is he? I went for a 3 mile run tonight, the first one in a few weeks as this damn virus has been wearing me down. I decided to Hell with the virus and went for it. I feel really mellow right now, a good feeling so if W has the decency to call her children tonight I might even talk to her!
The girls had him all dressed up in a nice Easter outfit, Whatisis... it is tailing off now.
Take time for you and your kids this weekend. Enjoy that you do not have to concern yourself with the other stuff. No worries ! Good GAL things there for you !
AT & KristyS, I went out this afternoon and bought a couple of books I wanted for Xmas, but didn't get! I'm looking forward to starting in on one of them tonight. Tomorrow I have a friend and her kids visiting, so that will take care of that. Sorry I missed the dress up party, maybe CM can write a poem about it.
Oh, W has failed to call and let her family know that she has arrived safely! How considerate Now, back to the show!
Tom, I have her cell number but I'm not calling! Kids are in bed anyway so why call, hey, guess what, the phone is ringing right now! Guess who! D answered and chatted with Mom then brought me the phone and said "Mommy wants to know if you want to talk to her" and I said "No". What am I going to say, "hope you have a great time"! I'd rather have no contact unless it is necessary. I'll live with that passive aggressive choice! Anyway, no more W talk, I've got a life to live or maybe just an evening to kill. Later DBers.
OK, last one, I swear! I decided to call W back. I felt badly about my passive aggressive tactic. Again, it was an emotional response and I don't trust those. I called and it rang three times and then I hung up. I felt a little anxious. She called back immediately and I answered. I told her that I just wanted to say goodnight and I was glad she arrived safely. She sounded happy to hear from me. It just didn't feel right to do what I did, I was lashing out in front of my D9, it felt wrong. I feel better now, whatever she does now will not be done out of anger, that's important to me. I know sometimes 1210 you feel I'm too PC but some of those values are what keeps me strong and still fighting. Sometimes when I'm real down about this, I remember my days as a young soldier. Sounds strange I know. We were taught that the Unit was your family and you DID NOT run out on family, no matter what! As a 17 year old boy I chose to do what was right, I did not let that family down. Today I continue to stand with my Unit, my real family...to continue to do what is right keeps me going, sometimes it's all I feel I can cling to that makes any sense. Thanks for reading guys.
