andy, something i don't get...doesn't your w want more? more love, passion, partnership? is she content? are you so trusty and familiar she doesn't notice you? is she so secure that you will just hang around and waste away that she feels she doesn't need to make an effort? is she resentful of you or angry, does she want you to suffer as some consequence to something we don't know about? i understand she is tired, i can only imagine how hectic it must be with 4 kids, one sp. ed. is she content with her place in life? what would happen if you demanded to spend some alone time, that you both were worth it, that the marriage needed it? something to shake things up somehow. for a long time i was so trapped by my fear of abandonement i subjagated all my needs. i also understand that there is a time for everything and this may be just a flat period in your relationship. has w gone to dr yet? lisa
