Merry Christmas to all, and to all a good thread. HO HO HO Just a little BB humour there Christmas is about giving and I think that if there is anywhere that can be said to exemplify the spirit of Christmas it is right here on this BB. When people who are hurting take the time to put aside their own pain and to reach out and give to others in similar or worse situations, well, that is the spirit of Christmas! Have a wonderful holiday everyone
Time for a report on last night action! It started out bad but took a big U turn. W called just before 6:00 pm to ask what time the kids and I were leaving for the dance studio. I said "now" (as I had told her this morning we would be) she told me where she was and, because it was only a few minutes away, I said we'd wait. W arrived and got out of car to take things in and as we approached D9 said "Hurry up, Mommy!". W went in and came out and then proceeded to tell D "Don't tell me to hurry up, I've just rushed home with bags to take in ...yak yak yak" Good so far eh? I just kept my mouth shut. Then we get in the car and start driving and D12 says "I forgot to bring my gifts", we returned home, steam starting to come out of W's ears. Traffic sucks on Friday night at this time, that's why I wanted to leave right on time. Oh well. If you aren't asleep yet, I will continue. W began sighing and then started telling me about work issues (Gee, same ones as last time) which is good, it cools her down. We arrived on time and ran into another mom there for the recital. This mom has always given me the impression she had a thing for me (and she is HOT! and divorced). She's never done anything forward or inappropriate but ...you know (and neither have I!).Sidebar here: I was out with a woman friend one night and we ran into her at a coffee shop, after talking for a bit she left and my friend looked at me and said "Somebody likes you!" I got embarrassed and changed the topic. So, anyway, here the three of us are here talking at the Studio and the other mom walks away for a moment and my W looks at me and says "Who is that woman?" W has met her before so I saw no need to introduce them. I told her whose mother she was and W said OK and started back with her work stuff. So I'm standing there with two women again, one talking about work issues and the other standing there with us trying not to listen! It felt a bit akward, so when W finished I asked the mom about her D and we all got back into parent talk together.
Now, performance was great! D12 did wonderfully, we were all proud of her. Afterwards I suggested we (my family) go to dinner and W mentioned that it was Chinese Thanksgiving and she had forgotten. So I suggested a Chinese place not far from the studio, which I had discovered. We went and had a wonderful dinner (food was great, W said so) and played word games with the kids during dinner. Upon coming home W talked for another hour about work. I listened, responded and defended her feelings and actions. It was pretty easy cuz she's right! So things went well. She was in a good mood at nights end. Maybe there really is a God So, thanks for reading this long and probably boring post, hey at least it's a nice one for a change!
Just a little note re my "OW" ha ha! Sometimes when I was really down, I would run into her and just getting a bright smile and a quick convo would pick my spirits up. It's funny how people can do little things that help and they don't ever know it did. I wonder how often I am able to do that for someone else? Feels nice, when it happens.
Thanks for dropping by Tom, I didn't know where to find you on this BB so I'll just wish a Merry Xmas right here! Thanks for the encouragement over the past few months. Oh and yes I have been to Ohio. We used to go to catch some Cleveland Indian games once in a while. I'm a Tribe fan too! My first vivid memory of Cleveland (again, on a family trip as a child) was watching a fat Cleveland cop directing traffic at an intersection. He was kicking the cars as they went through, if he felt they weren't moving fast enough on their turns! Funny, the things you remember. Take care.
Btw, I made a reservation at a restaurant for tomorrow evening, we'll celebrate family! Happy Anniversary to me!!!
Well, I told W about the reservation for tomorrow night and she seemed quite pleased about it. She's actually quite happy today. So, maybe we'll even have two nice nights in a row at the Whatis homestead!
It sure is quiet so far this evening... this is my first Holiday season on the BB I would imagine it was like that last year too ? A good thing when you think about it .
Ahh 1210, with the mood I am presently in, not a chance in the friggin world! It's funny how some things just leap up and tear your heart out all over again. W just left with two huge bags of presents for OP. D9 helped her carry them to the car, I could hear D calling from the door to her "I love you, have a good time". I just felt like putting my head in my hands and crying (which I will probably do sometime tonight). I felt a huge hole in my chest, honestly. The excessiveness of her gift giving sickens me and I'm sure she'll return with bags of presents from that bitch. I will be forced to watch them being opened Xmas Day! I'm so f'ing sick of being violated by this woman. I'm expected to carry on as the loving H while she f#cks around and gives me pretty much nothing. I don't blame her for expecting things to be the way they have always been. When you live a certain way you just naturally expect it to be this way, no matter what. There's no thought involved. She expects me to treat her as I always have. No thought to the pain I push aside day in and day out. Right now, I just feel like pulling the plug on this BS. I have been fighting this battle year after year now, when does it end? I've done what I can for my family and my M. I feel so defeated right now. I have a sham of an Anniversary tomorrow and then two days after Christmas I have to watch her go away with OP. I'm hurtin!
I know this to shall pass, and tomorrow is a new day. This post is just pure emotion talking but, damn it, I am a person, I deserve some f'ing love and respect. Sorry folks, tears are coming. I'll sign off now. I'll be better tomorrow. Strange how some things just jump up and bite you in the butt, or the heart.
I am so sorry that you are going through this...geez, I do feel your pain. Hang in there, okay? Let the tears come, they are probably long over due...(((((HUGS)))))
Gosh...the pain of this is wrenching...why doesn't she see this? Why?????
Whatis, listen, if she plans on opening the OP's gifts in front of the girls...then, I would put my foot down and tell her that it's just PLAIN RUDE to do that in front of you and the kids...that she can go into the bedroom alone and open them up...I don't care how loudly she screams...
This is ridiculous...absolutely, ridiculous....how insensi- tive can she be...?
Whatis, do you think that it might be time for a LRT? I know it can be a one trip vacation, but, geez, it's the time of year for the family...not OP.
We are here, for you...okay, for you and your girls...we care for all three of you...I'll be online tomorrow about 12:00 in the afternoon...we'll talk again...
Boy, that's really going to be some dinner tomorrow night. Concentrate on the kids...little on your W...let her ask you, out of hearing from the girls, what is wrong...then tell her, that she not open the presents from OP in front of you, out of respect for you...
We'll get through this...((((((Hugs)))))) (((((Hugs)))))
I just kept my mouth shut. Then we get in the car and start driving and D12 says "I forgot to bring my gifts", we returned home, steam starting to come out of W's ears. Traffic sucks on Friday night at this time, that's why I wanted to leave right on time. Oh well. If you aren't asleep yet, I will continue. W began sighing and then started telling me about work issues (Gee, same ones as last time) which is good, it cools her down. We arrived on time and ran into another mom there for the recital. This mom has always given me the impression she had a thing for me (and she is HOT! and divorced). She's never done anything forward or inappropriate but ...you know (and neither have I!).Sidebar here: I was out with a woman friend one night and we ran into her at a coffee shop, after talking for a bit she left and my friend looked at me and said "Somebody likes you!" I got embarrassed and changed the topic. So, anyway, here the three of us are here talking at the Studio and the other mom walks away for a moment and my W looks at me and says "Who is that woman?" W has met her before so I saw no need to introduce them. I told her whose mother she was and W said OK and started back with her work stuff. So I'm standing there with two women again, one talking about work issues and the other standing there with us trying not to listen! It felt a bit akward, so when W finished I asked the mom about her D and we all got back into parent talk together.