Lots of fires to put out in the Whatis household! I'll get to the last one. W spent 1.5 hours last night telling me about her issues at work. I listened, validated, DID NOT offer suggestions, DID NOT throw in "that's just like..."I stayed focused on what she was saying. Finally, at midnight, I excused myself to use the washroom (I had been holding off going, not wanting to interupt her) When I returned she said "You don't want to listen" and she left the room! I was stunned. How does one reply to such idiocy? She then returned and told me she had one more thing to say but it was very late. I said "Don't worry about it, I'll listen" She said "No" and walked away. End of convo. Let's see, I spent 1.5 hours listening and this is the thanks I get! What a f'ing maniac!!!! Previous to this, she had it out with oldest D re the usual stuff. I let it be (I had just returned from my class). When she came downstairs she said "Do you want to know what happened or is it just "one of those things" to you" Snark, Snark! She says nastily "Why don't YOU go and have one of your positive talks with her" I told her I would like to know what happened so we spent 15 min. on that. The night before I volunteered to take over dealing with youngest D's teacher because W was too worked up to deal with teacher (after W quoted school board homework guidelines to teacher in a note). So I'm sure in her eyes I am now the good parent and therefore she is bad, the calm dad and therefore she's the hysterical mom, and the good listening H and therefore she is the needy W. I have to accept that it is just a no win situation and just let go. Today, I will put this aside (or at least try to)and get my PMA up by finishing up Xmas shopping. She's out tonight with OP, a play or something, so maybe I'll have a night of peace, who knows!!!
