Just a quick addition to my last post. One of the items W has displayed on her dresser is a little dollar store crown. One night, six months ago, I said to the girls "tonight Mommy will be our Queen". W had been having a difficult time at work and I wanted to do something special. We went to the $ store and bought tea candles and a crown, we bought some strawberries, chocolate and a sm bottle of wine. We placed the candles around the bath tub, put on some soothing music and D said she would be "Mommy's Servant" for the night and feed her the strawberries. When W came home, after her dinner, I put the crown on her head and told her that she was "Queen of the house" and we led her upstairs to the waiting bath. So the crown is now displayed alongside my cards (which actually were just before the "bomb" in hindsight), a sm book of poetry (I gave her) and the big bow from my love letter. Every night before I go to bed I see these things sitting nicely set up and displayed. A little confusing, isn't it!
