I can see how this is killing you. You have waited for a long time. but,it seems like your husband is being careful.
I have been separated from my H for 10 months. Emotional abuse. He has not contacted me during that time.
I got desperate last week and called and asked him to have intimacy with me. He said no thanks.

Yeah it is hard but, be careful you may push him away.

I have been reading some posts. I always thought that men could just want the sex without emotions being involved. I thought that was what women felt.

In a way I am now glad that my husband said no because if we had come together next day it would have been back to same.

It's best to wait till it is right then it will be real.