Sure hope it is just one of those days. I am crying again and feel very hurt. It is a good job he is at work otherwise I would be asking him why he doesn't want to kiss me. I just need to know why. I'm scared it won't come back and I know for a fact I don't want to be M to him if it is just going to be platonic - I can't live like that.
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Would you settle for cuddling for now? do you kiss good night? When my H was still distanced in the affection dept. I at least held his hand at night for a bit in bed, it grew from there, take it slowly.
Yes I would settle for cuddling now. No we don't kiss good night. He isn't even saying good night let alone kissing. I was thinking of asking if I could lay my head on his shoulder or something but I don't want to push him further away. And he certainly won't let me hold his hand I don't think. When I link my arm in his when we're walking he says it makes him uncomfortable. I don't understand how it makes him uncomfortable if he finds me attractive.
Quote: Contrary to women's believes, men also need to feel a connection before getting physical, he needs some more time. Over all, SPEAK up, I dont' mean nag, but gently you can let him know that you'd like it if he'd hug you/hold you more often for example, at least to begin with
I do understand that he needs to feel a connection, what I don't get is why he doesn't feel a connection. Everything he ever said he was unhappy with has been fixed and he seems really happy. I think he is scared to do it because of how it was when I was ill. I have made it more than clear I am back to the old me in the ML department.
I don't so much feel begrudged that I'm doing all these things and getting nothing in return its more that I thought that by doing them it would make him want me if you see what I mean. I am still happy to do them without getting anything. I'm wondering if I should be doing something different?
Me 34
H 33
S2
Together 10yrs
Married 6yrs
Bomb 12th Aug 06
