Oh honey, it's just one of those days, dont' come unglued now!
You are doing things to please him and are expecting and expecting a return of your investment now. Give without expecting anything back, give freely without a string attached, give because it makes you happy as well, that way you wont hold any grudges.
Would you settle for cuddling for now? do you kiss good night? When my H was still distanced in the affection dept. I at least held his hand at night for a bit in bed, it grew from there, take it slowly.
Contrary to women's believes, men also need to feel a connection before getting physical, he needs some more time. Over all, SPEAK up, I dont' mean nag, but gently you can let him know that you'd like it if he'd hug you/hold you more often for example, at least to begin with. It baffled me how my H seemed almost shocked to know that by just holding me I'd feel alright, he was like "and that helps?".
He will come around, I was feeling the same way you do a few months back, now things are so much better, not perfect, but so much better between my H and I, it will be ok.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
