I'm not saying this to you to get into a battle of who's sit is worse but...
Your h wont be with you tonight because he will be at work..he gave you a reassuring kiss before he left...he said he'd call at midnight AND he said he'd have a new years drink with you when he gets in.
I think that's a whole lot of possitives!! don't bury your head..be happy that a new year is starting and you have a h who is at least attempting to make you feel secure despite obsticals like having to be at work and not with you at midnight.
My h has chosen to be out of state for the entire weekend..gave me no reassuring kiss before leaving to get on a plane has called only a couple of times and just to check in not to let me know about how he spent 5 hours waiting for a connecting flight or where they ate dinner or breakfast or what they planned to do at night or did at night and has thus far made no mention of planning to call at midnight.
Be happy with what you are getting..it may not be all the bells a whistles you were hoping for but you are getting something...the happier you can be with what you get may just encourage your h to blow those whistles for you.