HELP!!! H now wants to try

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Yes, two weeks is just way too soon to expect true affection, your H seems very very afraid and hurt, afraid of messing up again. He does need to understand -on his own- that he can't just "see what happens", that he needs to be positive about working on the M.

I agree. I think he is positively working on the M. He has said he is looking at it positively otherwise there is no point doing it (ie moving back in) and he is hugging me and being thoughtful about doing things I have said upset me like ringing me when he's going to be late and today he even rang me because he forgot to reply to a text! (I've said I feel anxious when he doesn't reply to them in case it means he's leaving again) I think what he means by "see how it goes" is his way of saying he's trying. I wish I could just have a specific number from how long he thinks is enough time! He has said he feels a lot more comfortable than when he first started staying here but sometimes still feels wierd because of what has happened.

Have a great New Year's and here is to a great year with our H's back!

Hear hear!!! I must admit I feel a pang of disappointment that I won't be able to welcome in the new year with a kiss from H. It would be so lovely for him to just say lets start the new year afresh - I'm back for definite and give me a big kiss! Oh well maybe next new year's eve.