Well I bit the bullet today and asked H how he thought things were going.

I pre-empted first by asking him if it would stress him out to ask him a question. He said no so I just asked him what he was thinking about things. He said things are going really well. Asked him what he thought he needed from me (if anything) to help things to be "how they should" (ie sleep in same room etc) He said he thought it would just take time and yes that was what he was intending to happen in the end that we would be back together properly. I said thanks and that I just needed to know what he was thinking and that I hoped I hadn't stressed him out at all. He said I definitely hadn't. He also said it would probably be better when he'd found a car because he said at the minute he's not paying me much attention as he's always on computer looking for car and he felt it was a bit one sided at the minute (ie: me doing everything) I thought this was very good that he thinks that. I said it was fine and that is how it should be if one partner has got something on that is important to them. (he seemed to like that) We went out for tea for his birthday as he is working it and he has now gone out with his colleagues for the evening for his birthday. I cheerily told him to have a good time and when he kissed S goodbye he stroked my cheek and said see you later. I wonder if our little chat has made him think he will be a bit more loving towards me? It has seemed like it today as he has touched my arm a couple of times when talking to me as well. I think things are on the right track and feel a bit more relaxed after the chat. I now feel he is wanting it to go where I do which is reassuring. I feel I can give him time and space to move at his pace now that I know what is going on in his head so I'm so pleased I decided to brave it and just ask outright!! I don't even feel anxious that he is out tonight! I'm sure the CD isn't for the W at work and also sure there is nothing going on. Yippee I think I'm getting there!!!

Me 34 H 33 S2 Together 10yrs Married 6yrs Bomb 12th Aug 06