HELP!!! H now wants to try

[toughlover]

Hey there's nothing wrong with a little R talk if the spouse is open to it and you can do it respectfully and without it becoming a negative. That advice to avoid it at all costs is for those sitch's where the S is not receptive at all. It sounds like your H is receptive right now.

That said, I wouldn't push it either. Sounds to me like you're doing great and buying a car in this situation sounds like a complication you don't need unless you have piles of cash laying around

Sounds like you're heading in the right direction. Just keep your detachment up and your expectations low and don't be surprised if he backpedals a bit or is more enthusiastic about things some times than others. Don't let it throw you into a tailspin, in other words.

I think it sounds very positive and it sounds like you're doing great.

Now keep doing great!