because we've missed our men so much we want to hug them kiss them, ML w/them..but they aren't ready just yet the first months. We ML 2wks after he was back, he smiled and all afterwards but weeks later confesed to me it didnt' feel the same. Contrary to women's believes, sex is a way for man to connect w/their spouses and if his feelings aren't there yet he can't do that.
Just now and then, while taking a walk, hold his hand for a bit, if he lets go then leave it alone, but that's how it starts. After a while my H would reach for my hand if I brushed mine against his. My H came back in April and not until a few months that he initiated sex (again, I do it most times) Still no hugs nor kisses unless I start, though he always responds. My timeline might be a bit off too because I dont' see my H every day, only on weekends due to his new job. But I'd say a few months before my H warmed up to me.
Start little, as I said, by holding his hand. Later on I went a bit more ...um, adventurous. When watching a movie I'd cuddle up against him, then I started caressing him and went a bit south and..well, you can guess what I did next after I slid down. But that was a long while after he came back.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
