Quote: Because you're expecting that his "trying" will look like your expectations or like you want it to, or will happen in the order or manner in which you've imagined it. I know exactly what you mean cause I went through the same thing. And this is tough, and I hope you begin to understand this quicker than I did, but it doesn't happen like that.
I hadn't thought of it like that, that he probably thinks just staying here is really trying hard. That makes sense. I suppose I have to try and see things from his point of view. I think my main concern is I cannot see how we get from here to him wanting to sleep in same bed or ML. He did come in "our" room and sit on the bed and lean over me to look at a magazine I was reading so I suppose that is a start. Its a shock to the system that just because he wants to try it doesn't mean his feelings are back. Its all so confusing. I feel I want to ask him how he thinks this part of things will come back but I guess thats a huge no go area right?
Me 34
H 33
S2
Together 10yrs
Married 6yrs
Bomb 12th Aug 06
