because your trust has been broken for the longest time you'll be waiting for the "other shoe to drop" I know I was for about the first months my H was back. Eventually I realized my H wanted to be w/me not becuase he didnt' have a place nor was deep in debt but because I wanted him back and we did have good times behind us.
It took my H months to also start being affectionate and get closer to me. When he came back he told me "I don't hate you but I dont..." It hurt , but I knew in my heart when he was away I wanted him no matter what, so I had to be patient.
He hasn't said ILY yet but he is more affectionate, he does initiate ML and likes it when I cuddle. I had to put my pride aside and be the one who reached out to him even though he was the one who hurt me. I started by just holding his hand, we slept on the same room but we didnt' ML for a while, even if he did only if I initiated.
It will take baby steps, just remember there will also be steps back but it's ok, it's part of learning to be together again.
Hang in there! congrats on havign him back, piecieng is hard work but each month you guys will be closer.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
