My H left me and S2 on 12th August. We have been on lots of family days out and even a five day holiday together since then but he still said he wanted a D.

Last week however he was in a lot of pain with his neck and stayed in our spare room to sleep on a good matress as he is sleeping at his friends on a children's bed. Anyway he was supposed to be staying until his physio appointment on the Wed but then still stayed and it was really great. We had had a talk about finances and maintenance on the Monday and I'd asked him on a date to see if we could salvage the M. He said he'd think about it and we went for a meal on Saturday night. It was fantastic we didn't stop talking and laughing and joking all night and he stayed in the spare room again. On Sunday he said he'd been having second thoughts because staying here last week felt normal and it was nice and Christmas had also made him think and he'd also had a really good time on our date. So he basically said he wanted to continue taking things slowly by him staying in the spare room. He isn't moving his things back in until things are more definite he says. All he has done since then is go on about buying a new car. I felt I had to point out that I felt like this was why he wanted to try but he says he would not stay with me just so he could buy a car. I have managed to talk him into buying with a loan rather than our savings if he gets one so that if he does decide to D me I have the savings to fall back on still.

I don't know what to do now. The initial excitement that he wants to try seems to have turned into doubts galore. Is he just staying in spare room because he doesn't want to miss Christmas with S and because he wants a new car?? He is still defensive about his comings and goings even though I genuinly am just making conversation - not prying. He said he wanted a D because he didn't feel a spark for me. How long will he be in the spare room?? If he doesn't "act as if" he would like to hold my hand or cuddle or anything and actually do those things how will it ever come back?? I'm so confused because I've wanted him to just try for four months and now I have my wish and it seems like I'm the only one trying and although he was the one to say he's had doubts and wants to try I don't feel like him being in the spare room is trying. If anyone else experienced this at the start of their piecing I'd love some insight into what to do/how it works. thanks.

Me 34 H 33 S2 Together 10yrs Married 6yrs Bomb 12th Aug 06