I saw you were feeling down and just wanted to send some smiles your way.
Kids can really keep you running hard. I know mine always keep us busy. I know my situation is differant and I can't truly understand the level of care that is required in your situation.
But I thought I would share a few thoughts that pertain to my family and perhaps it will trigger some thoughts for you.
My wife and I started having troubles before my kids were born. From hind site I would say that my wife in particular and myself later, overbonded with the kids. We filled some emotional needs in ourselves and in our marriage through our children. This overbonding has made our children too dependant on our help and time.
A family unit is a mutualy dependant system and like a marriage when one thing / person changes the whole family changes. Because more people are involved change can be slower but change will happen.
So I guess I am getting around to saying apply the DB concepts to your whole family situaion like you have your Marriage.
Anyway I can relate to a certain extent. I have two kids and a wife that have a problem with ADD. The kids are overdependant on my wife and I. We have two puppies in the house that need a lot of care. My wife and I both have demanding jobs and we own and our remodling two homes.
This leaves very little personal time and even less couple time. So we are emailing each other, Using our cell phones, leaving voice mail, Little notes here and there, and talking on the run. Once in a while we end up in bed awake at the same time or share a meal together with out the kids.
Anyway I really did just want to send some smiles your way.
