I dont have much to post here, but just wanted to let you know that I am reading with great interest!
My wife and I are still living apart, we have NOT been "intimate" and there is little talk of us getting back together..but for those of you familiar with my situation...things are progressing quite well, although sloooooooowly!
Just wanted to say that my dilemmas (as well as my wife's) are VERY similar to the ones you are facing...strange...I believe I AM piecing, just from a different angle, and although there are many differences..there are also a great number of similarities!